Tidbits

I have been watching all the latest documentaries about the Idaho murders. There have been quite a few of them now that the killer took a plea deal. It’s interesting to me how differently all four of the families tend to feel about the case. It seems like one family wants him to have the death penalty, one doesn’t, one doesn’t care as long as he’s away from society, and one isn’t really interviewed much. I could be wrong. I disagree that he purposely committed “femicide” obviously, because one of the victims is male. Some people might say something like, it’s still femicide because the male victim was the boyfriend of one of them, but I am just not buying it. He’s a serial killer, plain and simple. He has probably killed before. 

One of the moms (the one that I said isn’t interviewed much) was actually interviewed briefly, and she said she forgives the killer because she found Jesus. 20 years ago, that may have been inspirational, but now that I’m older I realize that even Jesus requires repentance. Brian Kohberger hasn’t repented. He only pled guilty to save himself. Now I just think that mom should not have been interviewed. 

Right after the murders happened and before he was caught, I wondered out loud, in front of my mother, “I wonder if it was a criminology student trying to get away with murder as part of their thesis.”  I didn’t realize how right on I was in my prediction. My mom often brings that up now, and I wish I hadn’t said it in front of her. She calls it a joke. (“Remember the joke you made about how it’s probably a criminology student?” she’ll say). I tried to explain that it was more of an intrusive thought than a joke and she started scoffing at me for being aware of mental health terminology. 

At work, for the time being, we are still a crew of five. Me, my husband, the boss, his wife, and their nephew. The boss’s wife ranted to me today about the fact that her nephew isn’t going to Louisiana with us and how pissed people are about this. He said he was “going on vacation” but she told me that actually his wife isn’t letting him go and doesn’t believe it’s really a work trip. She told me that his wife is really jealous. I said, “maybe he cheated on her before.”  She said, “No he didn’t!  Her first husband did and she hasn’t gotten over it!” 

She proceeded to tell me that his wife is jealous of ME and the women on the crews in the other cities. I said, “ME?!?!  Tell her she has nothing to worry about.”  

Bosses wife said, “Yup, you’re married.” 

I said, “Even if I wasn’t. Trust me she has nothing to worry about.”  

Then I asked, “Is she jealous of you?” 

She replied, “Well no because I’m his aunt.” 

Oh yeah, I guess that makes sense. I said it again. “He must have cheated in the past.” And she insisted, no no, not her nephew, that woman is just paranoid!  

Siiiigh. I told Kevin about it all the way home, and we had good laughs. 

We are going to get a lot of hours and most likely overtime in Louisiana this week and next week.  I still sometimes can’t believe that I have been married to Kevin for four months, started dating him two years ago, and that I’m still working at the company where I met him. I also cannot believe that no one is demanding I give them my back up plan for in case “he leaves you and you get fired all at once”. I was raised to constantly think this way. Does no one ask me this because I’m older now or because they already know I’m just going to take off and do the merchandising apps until I figure something else out?  Or maybe it’s because I know from experience that the advice they’d give anyway is generally bad advice and I didn’t know that when I was younger?  Or maybe it’s because the majority of all my old abusive and domineering family members are senile and locked away in nursing homes. Perhaps some of them died and I wasn’t told. I don’t know, but it’s sure nice to be married and not have all these women over my head saying “What are you going to do if he dies or leaves you?”  That gets old.